Egyptian Man

Submitted by ixxidan (United States), Sep 4, 2009 at 15:44

Hello all, I am a 22 year old female from the US. I met this 23 year old Egyptian man one day when I was playing a game on facebook. I was minding my own business, certainly not looking for anything, but he started talking to me. We of course added each other. Next day I see him again. He tells me he really likes me (maybe even that he loved me, I don't remember) and also asked me to marry him. He even gave me a fake e-ring. I told him I could not and revealed to him that I had a boyfriend. In reality, I am just dating someone, nothing serious, but I was hoping that having a boyfriend would make him cool off. He told me he has never felt this way about anyone. He asked me to leave my boyfriend, but I said I could not right now. I was pretty overwhelmed since I've never had this happen since I am American and American men don't usually do this stuff. I was also flattered and intrigued so I continued talking to him. Over the next couple of weeks we would occasionally chat online. Each time he would tell me he loves me, and I felt pressured into saying it back so I said that I love him too. I know that was pretty stupid, but I felt that I really liked him, wanted to know him better and didn't want to hurt his feelings. He started questioning me more about my love for him and I eventually said I wasn't if I loved him but that I really liked him. He didn't seem very interested in learning about me at all. He rarely asked questions about me, my family, my school, friends etc. He just didn't seem very interested in getting to know me and more interested in getting me to blindly commit to marriage.

Anyways I try to avoid seeing him online for a few weeks and would just talk to him briefly when we talked. I became curious about what he had in mind for our future if we were to get married even though there really was no chance I would agree. He said if we were to get married he would want me to move to Egypt. He said it was ok that I was not Muslim and that he would never ask me to become Muslim. He said he would support me completely and that I could do whatever I wanted there (work, school etc.). He said he is not married and never has been. I then asked him how many sexual partners he's had and he at first acted like he wasn't sure what I was asking. Eventually he said "a lot" and finally he said maybe 30 or so. I tried asking more questions and he seemed to get irritated. He said we could visit each other either in Egypt or he could come to me if I wanted. He kept saying to just answer to question whether I would marry him. He seemed very irritated that I was asking questions and seemed to just want me to say yes and stop asking questions.

I noticed that while he I knew him he was constantly adding other very attractive girls from all over the world after I had met him. I frequently questioned him about his other ladies. He would either ignore the question or say they were friends and he only felt this about me of course. I know he had a relationship with a polish girl about a few months prior to me meeting him, because he had pictures of them on his profile. She also remained on his friends list. He probably also had > 100 women from the US or Europe on his list. My instinct was that he was a major "player" and trying to play me like the rest.

I am just not sure exactly what this guy wants from me, and was curious of your thoughts on this. I am just starting graduate school and have really no money right now, so I don't think that's what he wants but who knows. Maybe I am just skeptical and he really does have good intentions (truly loves me and wants to marry me). Maybe he wants a VISA, but he of course he denies it.

I don't know. There is something about this guy, as if he put a spell on me. I constantly think of him and fantasize about him and I living happily ever after. I have guys hit on me frequently on and offline and usually blow them off without a thought. I don't know what it is about him that makes it difficult to blow him off and let him go. Maybe it's the exotic secret love things. I don't know. I know that there is a very high chance this would never work out. I told him this and he got sort of mad. He told me to never say hi to him again. He said he wanted me so bad and if I don't want him then what is the point of talking to him. I think this is the best thing that could of happened for me, but still kind of hard to stop thinking about him or stop talking to him. I will get over it with time and forget all about this in no time.

I do not understand why he wouldn't want to marry an Egyptian girl? I am pretty sure he realizes I am not a virgin although we never really discussed it directly. Why wouldn't he want a nice virgin? I don't understand why his family would be pleased with him marrying a non-muslim American girl unless they are wanting money from me. Is it possible that he could truly like me and have good intentions? Maybe it's just cultural differences. I have read many of your stories and my heart goes out to all of you who have been hurt. I am posting here because I don't really have anyone else to talk to about this. My friends would think I was crazy if I told them this.

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