PARANOID? OR IS MY MARRIAGE A SHAM?

Submitted by NIcki (United Kingdom), Sep 8, 2009 at 20:50

Hi i have just come across this site and it had made me seriously worried... I have been in a relationship with a turkish man for 4 years (married for just over 1) i met him here in the UK so i have never felt as though i dont trust him being out in a resort or anything but 2 years in to our relationship he got deported back to turkey and i went over to visit him when he was working in cyprus and i got pregnant.

We actually were over joyed about this and i managed to get out to turkey when i was 6 months gone so we could get married so he could come home. By this time he was in oludeniz, working- so lots of english girls around but even then i still trusted him and spoke to him every day, he came back before our daughter was born and we have had a really happy relationship up until about 3 weeks ago...

I am a huge facebook addict and i set him up a page then he got a message from an english girl i asked him who it was just being nosy really and he said he didnt know her then he said he knew her before me then he said she was a tourist out in turkey so of course this raised my suspisions, i got into his facebook page and pretended to be him chatting to her i of course found out the worst that he had cheated on me with her- 1 week before i came out for us to get married

OUCH i was absolutely mortified obviously and i confronted him straight away, he tried to deny everything but in the end after hours he told me he had done it. She still said he had seen her since he got back to the UK which turned out to be true that was October last year (1 month before our baby was born) and i even found an email he said to her the day before my daughter was born.

So, i have been thinking long and hard about everything and i am trying to forgive him but i have this feeling it could be many more or things with that girl could still be carrying on? i could just be paranoid plus it could be over a year ago.

i mean marrying me was literally to get him home so we could all be together and raise our family, i know that but there is a small part of me that feels when he gets his british passport he is going to up and leave.

His brother also got married at the same time to an english ex girl friend and the family have even said to me they dont really like her and she will be gone after he gets his passport so are the family just being nice to my face and saying the same thing behind my back?

ARGH! i dont know, whats everyones thoughts? thanks Nicki x

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