he will!

Submitted by bewildered (United Kingdom), Sep 9, 2009 at 13:15

Hi Pauline

dont be sure he wont contact you, I thought that too and just when I thought he had gone for good.....hey...he pops up again! why do u answer him when he is on line? dont! why should he get the pleasure of you answering him, because while you do he knows he has got you right where he wants and as time goes by its the same old crap and then you learn more about him, things you dont really want to know and they always say how they will get another woman or they have already, also we are to blame for this??? because we didnt go and visit or we didnt get married. Its all emotional blackmail and they know exactly how to pressure us. If he loved you he could easily contact you in egypt, ramadan or not, nothing would stop a man who truly loved a woman from getting in contact. Times he disappears just like mine did shows they have something to hide and if its not another woman then what else could it be? If they were genuine they would hide nothing from us, and to disappear for days or weeks spells trouble, instilling no confidence to trust them.

Another thing is, they are always in the net, so its obvious what they do, theyr'e not there just for us as they say lol, He ignored you when you told him you had another man??? omg if he loved you he would be insanely jealous and definitly would have reacted. I dont think we can believe any of their stories at all as they always change them, so we should not be trying to analise what theyr'e up to because its probably not true anyway! waste of emotional brain power. Let them get on with their sad lives, lies, theft, fraud whatever, i am finaly begining to hate mine for what he put me through, and he will still be sure of himself because getting women is easy for them, theyr'e handed a woman on a plate from their mother like buying a peice of property they have viewed, looking after that property, being the owner 100% and they know it cant go anywhere unless he says! Yet! they can have the freedom to cheat with women, theive, (taking the money back to their "good controlled" wives ) live it up western style in tourism (hyprocrites) then pray and say theyr'e devout muslims to Allah?? we dont need men like this!!

Pauline his lies!! and no way would he have a family get him a visa for working in pizza shop lol, why the hell would they go to all that trouble?? simple...they wouldn't. Lets face it we were one of many, lets pity them and move on, i am getting better as I have had enough of the lies and decieit, they stay calm and collected because its work for them again buisness! no feelings! just a job.

Dont answer him if he sends msn message, if he really wanted to speak to you he would send a text on your phone or ring you, not wait until its convenient in the net because he happens to be there! I know its hard because ive been there and sometimes I still find it hard but do we want to be feeling like this in another 6 months time? I don't.....and I know you dont too, so Pauline although it seemed wonderful at the time, it wasn't because they just played with our minds and emotions like they do with all their women to reach their goals. We know! and lets move on to better things.

keep in touch xx

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