Authentic Askim? I think no

Submitted by Allieh (United Kingdom), Sep 10, 2009 at 10:18

Turkish men are not known for their honesty or faithfulness. They all say they're not looking for a visa and he won't ask you for money straight away, if at all. My ex never asked me for money and actually spent money on me...but was conning it and stealing it from other women to recoup his losses. Obviously I didn't know about this til later. Most will say they want to live in Turkey too, my ex was no exception and is so patriotic he has a tattoo on his inner forearm of Attaturk's signature...but he would still be permanently in the UK or USA like a SHOT if he got the chance. I don't think that your askim being educated really makes any difference either. He met you online, he's got a study visa at the moment and will want to secure himself a permanent one in the near future. Marriage is the easiest and sometimes only way to do that. Turkish men are expected to support their parents in their old age and help the extended family out so they will be in favour of him obtaining a visa even if it means marrying an 'unsuitable' wife in their eyes, so you can't even trust them to tell you if he's a rogue. They will put on a show of accepting you if needs be.
Sorry to be negative and not tell you that it's all ok, but I really don't think it is and the best thing you can do is get out now before you really fall for him, get married and get very hurt. Allie xx

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