To Allieh

Submitted by TarkanCrush (United States), Sep 11, 2009 at 15:40

I hear you... Still, I really don't want to ruin a shot at a really great guy if he's legit. I sure don't consider myself the typical loud, brash, ignorant, ethnocentric/egotistic American, so I don't want to see him as just another Turkish Rat...

I mean, it's not like I have to decide anything soon. No rush. I want to get to know him better, let time reveal more, and only agree to certain things if it is on my terms.

Things like: I will never lend him money, I want to meet his friends, would not want to get engaged unless I went to Turkey to meet his parents, want him to get a professional job that uses his degree, not have him move into my house unless we were married, and under the circumstances, I would have him sign a pre-nup. But that's talking WAY down the road. I even asked him where he think this could be leading, and he said, well, it's still early in the relationship. But he said that I should know that there are three women in his life: his mother, his sister, and me.

I may not be able to control my heart, but my head sure can be engaged at the same time! I mean, really, should you do that with any guy, Turk or not?

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