To Istanbulchick

Submitted by yasemin (Canada), Sep 17, 2009 at 12:01

Kudos for telling it like it really is over there. I too lived there for 2 years and got strung out from the constant harrassment from men of all ages on the street. I'm 60 but still had young teenaged boys trying to put the moves on me. Disgusting. And I was dressed extremely conservatively in order to minimize the hassles. They view western women and women in general as objects - to please their mothers or seal a financial marriage deal or to gain a visa/sex/money. Every single day I was harrassed and it made me crazy. Doesn't matter if this poster is attractive - these guys would do a 90 year old woman if she had something else to offer. She's dealing with a prehistoric caveman mindset but thinks the people are modern because they wear nikes and use cell phones. It's all mirages over there and she's going to get burned because she places appearance over substance. Pretty words, attractiveness - they evaporate as soon as the visa is obtained. She has no idea that one day he will in all likelihood walk out the door with the visa in hand and she'll never hear from him again. And then the well-hidden turkish fiance will join him.

Your advice was right on the mark. However the guy may pretend to go along with the idea of living in Turkey but in the meantime make this young woman fall even more deeply so that she'll give him what he wants.

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