Advice on Egyptian man and love

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Sep 20, 2009 at 00:09

Hi Samantha, and thanks for sharing!

I understand that this is a difficult situation for you, so please read carefully on what I have to say:

I have to share with you, Samantha, that meeting someone off the internet, especially on some kind of instant messangner like MSN is a very bad idea. The truth is, you have no idea who this man is, and that's really why you're on here, I think. You want more information, because information is security, and you are not getting it from him. You're getting--at most--only 30% of the information you would on a real date. You cannot feel his touch, see his expressions in real time, or even mirror his movements. You are at a distinct disadvantage to say the least.

If you were truly in love in this man, you would not need to be asking us for advice and you would not need to still be with your boyfriend. It sounds like you are using your boyfriend as a safety net in case this on-line encounter. If you do not like your boyfriend, then you ought to leave him.

You say that you are young, Samantha. From your story, I do not think you are really in love. When you love someone, Samantha, you trust them, and if you trusted your Egyptian man, well, you would not be on here. I can understand your attraction to him, and I'm sure he seems like a nice person, but ALL relationships start off good, Samantha, it's how they end that makes all the difference.

There is no telling what this man is up to, Samantha, and persuing this is a bad idea that most likely end up with you hurt. I think that you've got some real issues here if you've got a boyfriend but are fooling around with other men. I don't why you are doing that, but if you want a decent man in your life period, you've got to reexamine your behavior. I know I sure wouldn't be telling a man to stay with a woman who fools around with other men on-line. I've been there and done that myself. So, if anything, Samantha, you need to resolve things with him first. That may mean working things or that may mean leaving him, but this current situation is not fair to him or to yourself.

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