Amber, don't fall for this

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Sep 20, 2009 at 00:20

Then he asked why you are mad at me? What have I done wrong? I said, if you really love me you will not disappear just like that. He said, babe my office is in the desert there is no net nearby and during those times there is no internet connection in my workplace. And why you did not call or text me? He said, there is something wrong with my phone etcetera, etcetera. He added that he did not even see or call his family. How come? It's Ramadan? I said you expect me to believe all that? I am not stupid. Even you are in the prison, you could make a way to contact me if you really love me. He said babe, just give me one last chance and it won't happen again.

Amber, this is total BS. He is leading you on. These are such lame excuses, I don't even know where to begin. Out in the middle of the desert?!?! Ha!

I've never liked this man's intentions from the start, and I see a stark pattern here. How many other women on here have heard "Babe/baby, just give me one more chance?"

Really, Amber, if a Filopino man did this to you, would give him another chance???

Amber, by giving this man another chance, you are letting him get away with it. You have not punished him by any means, and all you have done is make him more careful to cover his tracks. If he was away for weeks at a time, I can pretty much promise you that he was fooling around with someone else.

I really don't care if you are on here to use information for your study, but you are becoming a statistic yourself.

This man does not love you, Amber, no matter how nice you are and no matter how many chances you give him, he will never change. He now knows that he can push around, and he'll be careful to just avoid slipping up. I think he knows that you don't have the strength to leave him, and the only way to prove him wrong is to leave him, Amber.

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