To Amanda

Submitted by Isis (Australia), Sep 22, 2009 at 01:11

I'm going to play the bad cop here.

You met him online, you went to Egypt, you never met his family, you had sex under an Orfi marriage, he asked you for money - all big red flags that should have sent you running for cover before you got involved with him to any degree.

In answer to your questions - Egyptian men plague foreign women because vulnerable foreign women disregard dignity and self respect in exchange for a few sweet words resulting in letting these men get away with poor behaviour. You cannot possibly hope to ever know a man over the internet. If you wanted to meet and get to know this man you should have stayed by yourself in a hotel in Egypt and met him on neutral ground before making a commitment to have sex. This is just common sense. Sorry if I sound harsh but you were 50% of the relationship.

I also disagree with you regarding your comment "because they all want a foreigner, preferably older (he´s 10 years yonger than me...just 25). All of them want this, not only the poor ones, also the well educated..." You do not see this type of behaviour with well educated Egyptians. This type of behaviour has become a social phenomenon particularly amongst poor Egyptians in the high tourist areas of Egypt expecially in Sharm, Hurghada and Luxor. Educated Egyptians do not sit in internet cafes all day and night scamming naive western women. Educated Egyptians are also NOT waiting on tables, sailing a felucca on the Nile or touting for business for their friend's cafe/bazaar /taxi on a street corner. Educated Egyptians are working in banks and business management and don't need a foreign woman to prop up their income.

I also read with dismay your closing sentence "I´m still under a spell...cant stop thinking about him, worry a lot about him if he´s ok, if he´s sad or happy....well...i´m the biggest fool of all." Why do you still let this man torture you? You are displaying the same type of behaviour that let him use you in the first instance. Forget him, move on and learn from your experiences.

I hope Samantha who has posted earlier regarding an Egyptian man she has met online reads your story before her predicament mirrors yours.

All the best.

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