Reply to Susan

Submitted by Curious (United States), Sep 23, 2009 at 21:03

"...the courts don't seem to want to do it and our lawyer has it conceded that we must accept visitation...please stranger pray for us as I pray for you."

Susan. You need to stop with this lawyer right now and find yourself another attorney right away. You don't have to "concede" anything, most especially visitation of your child with a man who is a moral mis-fit and an abuser. You should have some proof, at this point ... for instance, the neighbor you speak of and even the child, himself, if what you say is true that the child witnessed "games" between daddy and "Daisy" on the bed. Even the testamony of child can, and has been, considered in court, but you need adequate legal representation.

When I divorced, my husband received the right only to supervised visitation and he wasnt half the monster that you've depicted this man to be. So, don't give in lightly, just get yourself another attorney and YOU TELL THEM THAT YOU DO NOT WISH TO CONCEDE VISITATION RIGHTS for all of the reasons you've stated in your post.

I am a lot older than you, Susan, and I can tell you that most people will only threaten those who are weaker than they perceive themselves to be. So, as for the threats, Susan, I might playfully suggest that you start watching some old movies. Try some Clint Eastwood movies, Susan, and read between the lines. But putting all jest aside, consider getting yourself some adequate "protection".

For all of the problems you've got from this relationship, you can at least consider that it's made you a stronger and wiser woman. Now, I hope you have the wisdom to move forward in your life remembering this experience and hopefully not repeat the same mistake. You owe it to your son.

Good luck to both you and your child.

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