Re dolmus drivers etc

Submitted by yasemin, Sep 24, 2009 at 14:25

Thanks for bringing back wonderful memories of life in Istanbul, istanbulchick :):)

Equally won't have this problem if she's hanging on his arm - she'll be the protected visa trophy.

There was the first divorce lawyer who invited me to come back there and go camping with him - and since he was probably working both sides of the divorce street i graciously declined, knowing that an acceptance was both possible sex in his twisted turkish mind ( yuck ) plus evidence of adultery for my husband's benefit as the final court date was coming up.

The ad i put on the internet seeking a room to rent yielded one married couple who seemed very nice and the husband continued to call, asking to get together so i pointedly replied Yes it would be lovely to see you AND YOUR WIFE sometime. The invites ceased. Then there was the other responder who offered money in return for marriage and after passing on his name to the consulate and letting him know it was futile to try this to enter Canada, he threatened a lawsuit. Actually i've been threatened with lawsuits 3 times over there. Either i need a new personality or it's a custom there :) Anytime you rub them the wrong way or deny them, you get a threat of some kind, including the death threats from the husband.

As for dressing conservatively to avoid harrassment, i can relate. I tried no makeup and poor clothes, no decrease in harrassment ( and trust me i look really ugly with no makeup haha), followed by very professional look - no change. I liked the second one cuz i was able to withstand the withering glares of the neighborhood old women everytime i tried heading to the bus stop. I learned to avert stares with my own withering glares.

I'm racking my brain to recall one nice, trustworthy turkish man so i can show Miss equally attractive that i am not totally bitter haha. The ferry workers protected me from the pervs on the ferry one day but they hate crying women i guess :) Yes i guess there were a couple who were okay. ( gee that must mean Equally's visa guy is okay too possibly )

One last suggestion for Equally - try saying you don't ever want the hassle of a legal marriage and then see how special and precious you are. And attractive.

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