To Bewildered - Getting over it all

Submitted by Isis (Australia), Sep 24, 2009 at 21:39

Sorry - I don't understand the thread of your comment.

However, I do believe that women who jump into a relationship with a man of a totally different culture that they have only known for a few hours, days, months and have sex before considering all the consequences need to take at least 50% of the blame. I agree, name and shame these men but do it with dignity and strenglh of character. Most women posting on here like to keep the emotion rolling with the "Woe is me" scenario. Sorry if I sound harsh, but to be successfukl in commitment to expose these creeps women need to show strength of character and stop saying "I miss my man" or "I still love my man" even though they were scammed and left high and dry or even though they were one of many wives or even though they were physically and emotially battered in a culture which manipulates its religion to make this behaviou acceptable.

What I am saying, is that naive trust and complacency is what got many of these women into their predicament with Muslim men in the first place -- especially concerning internet romances. I never said that you went to Sharm looking for a man. You went there and met a man of a different culture and believed every word he said despite not knowing him or the culture. Surely some of the blame with the collapse of the relationship and your hurt rest with you and you must have known of the reputation of the men in Sharm as you would of the men in Luxor if you went there. I certainly did and it's not hard to miss with every 25 year old Egyptian man that you pass saying "I love you" in the second sentence and "I want you to be my wife" in the third. It's flattering but when it comes down to the nitty gritty it is just nonsense. These men are from poor villages, they have no money, no education, no life experiences so why would you as an educated and wordly western woman want to be involved with them as a future love/life partner?

I advise you to read some of Yasemin's posts. She has come out on the other side from a horrendous relationship with enormous strength which gives her great credibility when advising on here regarding Turkish men. Perhaps you could follow in her footsteps and start healing rather than perpetuating ithe hurt.

All the best fior moving on to a better place in your life.

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