My Explantion to you...

Submitted by Finally Wised UP (United States), Sep 26, 2009 at 02:56

Hello Madame,

Why do we fall for poor men from a third world country you ask? Why do we choose to give these men our hard earned money instead of helping our own families and loved ones?

Well, the best way for me to answer this is because we were conned. Conned by "confidence artists".

These men, especially Moroccan men, have a knack for playing pity to the highest level! We kind hearted, generous, loving women, fall for their kind words, their pretend empathy and sincerity, and words of love. We meet them in person, we see their surroundings, we hear their stories (lies) and we want to make their lives better. They say they want to share our lives, they will be so happy with us, we question their motives constantly and are reassured that our age, looks, situations, mean nothing to him...He loves us so much. Kiss, Kiss, Hugs (little icons) sent after his sweet words to us. They arrange times to meet us on line. All this attention, the repitition of it all, is hypnotic. We rush home to meet him online. It's the highlight of our day. We are consumed by him, almost as if we are hypnotized and in a trance.

These poor men come first in our life. They are everything we have ever wanted in a man (their words are our everything). They have so many problems, dark clouds hanging over their heads, we as women, want to fix them. You are absolutely right in saying we wouldn't even look twice at a man that poor in our own countries, nevermind date them and fall head over heels in love with them. I know it makes absolutely no sense. But it happens. And it happens to educated, happy, bright women all the time. These men are extremely cunning and know exactly how to pull our heartstrings. They all deserve the academy award for their acting skills. But of course the reason they are so well at the perfect lines, reactions, and concern is because they are experts in this field. These men have nothing to do in their third world countries. No job, no purpose, no money. So they sit around in the coffee cafes and cyber cafes and they compare notes. They actually have notebooks that they can obtain that contain printed material of sample emails, poems and sayings to woo their unsuspecting prey. (The women that get reeled into their webs of deceit.)

No man in our own country can even come close to these scam artists. Our local men are real and we all know what kind of dogs they are! So when these men present themselves in our lives, it is so refreshing and welcomed. We have always dreamed of a man that would do anything to make us happy. Trouble is, give them enough time, we find out their true colors and they just happen to be the worse men we have ever had in our lives!

The stories they tell us rival the best fiction you have ever read. They insist that what they say is the TRUTH. They never come out and ask for money. They are experts in manipulation and work us like a job. Their families act as they love us to death. We love them back...but for real. We want to help them too. We rationalize that these people are so much in need that our families and loved ones here, have everything compared to them. Bottom line - We feel so good helping other humans on this planet. Until, the bottom falls out from under us. WE LEARN THE TRUTH. Then the what if's and why's plague us and haunt us for the longest time. We then feel so stupid, so dumb, so taken and now we are robbed of all of our money, our love and happiness. There is nothing quite so painful as learning that "our relationship" was a total sham and we were the last to find this out.

So Madame, I hope this sheds some light on what happens to us women that fall for the poorest, biggest liars (sociopaths) and total ... on the planet. We slip into an emotional coma and lose all touch with reality as we live our pretend online lives with these criminals.

Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. Reasoned disagreement is welcome but not comments that are scurrilous, off-topic, commercial, disparaging religions, or otherwise inappropriate. For complete regulations, see the "Guidelines for Reader Comments".