To Jasmine---getting over him and what to do

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Sep 27, 2009 at 18:48

Hi there Jasmine!

First of all, let me just say that 6 weeks is very impressive! Be proud of yourself, okay, but here is what else you ought to do:

I see you've been going out on dates. Good for you, Jasmine! But, don't hesitate to go out with your friends and spend time with your family. It really does help to get away from your computer and phone.

The other thing you must do, Jasmine, is delete him from your messanger and delete his phone number as well. Seriously, Jasmine, you probably will not get over him unless you do this.

This man is coming back for you because he senses an easy catch. The thing about a lot of liars and scammers and liars is that if you let them hang around, they'll keep trying to contact you. It may be 6 weeks, or it be may several months, even years. One of the biggest concerns I have on here are women who regress back to some man who does not deserve them out of saddness or grief or guilt.

Jasmine, you have got to realize that he is just playing games with your emotions to get what he wants. Really all the "do you miss me baby?" nonsense is a textbook trick used by players.

It has only been 6 weeks, and I understand how you feel, but just realize that the right person will come along for you, perhaps even when you are not looking so hard. Dating others just to get over someone does not really make that result, so, first things first, Jasmine. I say still go out, even date, but soul mates, Jasmine? That takes a while to discern, and I just think that ulimately, you'll need to get over him first, and that does mean ignoring him and deleting him.

I know it won't be easy Jasmine, but I know you can do this. If the temtptation comes up, distract yourself, and really just get away from the computer!

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