not all the same, exactly

Submitted by Lina (United Kingdom), Oct 2, 2009 at 07:11

Bravo, Isis. I mean it's not like people on the other side of the coin are any happier... you can see confusion and misery every day even between westerners in relationships. Some women have a sense of adventure, and are lucky enough to be born with an open mind. I really think people need to stop being so ignorant by lumping everyone in the same category... the whole "poor victim being scammed over the internet" stereotype shoudn't be applied to everyone in a relationship with a man from a different culture.

When I was in Morocco, I saw old western men with Moroccan girls and boys young enough to be their grandchildren, and I've seen trashy women walking around with north african men... and it's really horrible, because it gives the rest of us a bad name. These are vastly different cultures, & those people have no respect for them, they just want a taste of the "exotic".

There are predators in every corner of the world, but people can't live a life wrapped in cotton wool. Even parents are scared to send their children out nowadays for fear of them being preyed on, but at the same time people can't assume that everyone is bad.

Society in north africa/the middle east is changing. Dating is accepted more often in middle and higher classes, and any man who has been brought up with the right morals would never dream of playing around with a woman, no matter how "infidel" she may be. The crux of the matter is, if you date a simple, poorly-educated and possibly immoral man of ANY culture there is a higher chance of being hurt. I see young girls being hurt all the time by their poorly-raised WESTERN boyfriend... what makes women think it'll be any different with men from another religion etc.?

It's all about finding the right one... a lot of these people are driven by looks, & usually in those cases the man resents all westerners, all of them and indiscriminately... it's just the way he's been raised. They might not be very bright, and when they see men and women picking up their young people like they're products in a shop... disrespecting traditional values... it only fuels their hatred.

Or sometimes it's not even that. Even Egyptian and Pakistani women have been scammed for a green card by muslim men in the third world. Those men have no morals, so they really don't care who they target, they're just desperate.

You get what you pay for really. If you go after a bimbo boy on the internet that's what you'll get and a lot worse. But if you follow all the right guidelines, know what you're getting into and aren't in a fragile state of mind, the outcome will be more desirable.

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