Disappearing Man.

Submitted by willow nc(NO Contact) (Canada), Oct 2, 2009 at 22:36

I've not posted for a while but I thought I would.because it's amazing how much a womens intiuition is right. I've saw a comment on here about the disappearing and wanted to say ..women always go with your gut. Thanks to Shelly and her story and the folks who commented. It really hit home. This type of behavior of a man of any nationality is not worth our breath.

I was very much like Amber Rose comments. Just seeing where it goes trying not to be to invested. I had all the stupid text which really I found very fake..the love you's at 3 months and then he broke up and begged me to remain friends (I think this is a pattern) I could kick my butt for even allowing it, because deep down I felt I was friends with benefits. but agee we as women on this blog have a caring nature and want to make their life better. Well we talked at lest 2x a week and saw each other at least once a week and I really found my self weening from the relationship for the phone calls were infrequant and honestly the more I read on here I just was sick of the doubts.

His appearance was going down too. Like he didnt care - no bathing or shaving. He has disappearred a couple of times and would not return my calls. I just grew to expect it and said " its cultural" (Ding Ding..what an excuse! Not) Well Ramadaan came around heard from him during the first week and after that never responded to my text nor phone calls. I even sent him a small gift and card for I felt like he would respond never did. Even PLEASE ARE YOU OKAY? No response. He finally picked up when I texted him on Tuesday with a"baby why you ignoring me?" (trying to use the flattery technique and guess what? He called and gave b.s. story about he didnt want to waste my time and didn't want me to blow him out and said you probaly think i am a %^$&& various curse words. you are going to cuss me out and ive been depressed. I basically said - No I am not going to do that - I figured you went back home and we are friends so why do I care, other than if we were true friends you would not make me worry? Well I wanted to make sure you were okay but its obvious like the book reads "you are not into me". I told him when he broke up so he could see other people why would I be mad. I was very calm which shocked him. Not talking to him a total of 4 weeks no contact has really helped.

He denied he broke up with me to see other people but something just wasnt right. Well he called.

Weds nite, and Thursday night acting all ill and I told him I would give him some meds and was suppose to meet him Friday. Well guess what? no response no answering phone. Well my God must be looking after me - One of my good friends who just happened to meet him was in another state 150 miles at a festival and seen him with his male friends flirting with the ladies. I am waiting for his call back. Isnt that crazy???? He is telling me how sick he is and he is off vacationing. Betcha his plan was "o baby i was so sick couldnt get out of bed" . It actually told me one time he was in bed for 2 days. So apparently he is tramping around. So I had my doubts early on. I NEVER would have married him but still communicating with him as honestly has kept me from moving on to someone else that cares.

The best one he told me the first month "allah put women on this earth for man's pleasure". But remember in Islam it's okay to lie to an Infidel.So I guess he is taking it to the max. Sorry to babble...point is if you cant go cold turkey ween yourself and then cut the cord. Even when he called this week I was feeling lied to and just keep telling myself. "He is not into me" and I don't want a liar even if he was into me. This is the last straw. No Contact Rule works once you get through the withdrawal of the attention. I am hurt but also I am laughing. He had Greencard, I think I was just one of the many idiots who believed him.. Stay Tuned.....and his picture will be posted . soon.

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