Married to Mohamed

Submitted by alexis (United States), Oct 7, 2009 at 20:43

As a matter of fact, I am married to Mohamed. My husband is a Muslim and I am an American woman. ... While there are problems with domestic abuse in the Muslim world as well as in the West, it is in no way substantiated by Islam as a religion. I was not tricked into marrying my husband and he didn't turn into a monster after I married him. He is a good husband and father and the only problems we have are cultural, not religious. If anything, the religion has supported his good behavior as a husband. Mohamed, the figure in Islam, encouraged good treatment of women and the accounts of this are overwhelming. Polygamy was a common practice at that time and it is discouraged, if anything, by the Qur'an.

I am a well-educated, independent woman and nothing has changed since I married my husband. If anything, he demonstrates pride in my accomplishments, including my studies for a Ph.D. in Education. ... Several of my American friends who wear the veil by choice and are not even married have experienced stares from people who believe they are abused and weak rather than women who have chosen their life style and religion for themselves. The only abuse my friends have suffered is from ignorant and brainwashed people ... My heart goes out to the women who have been abused in your "story". However, being the wife of a Muslim for most in the US is generally a normal, equal relationship. Islam gives women property rights, the right to divorce, the right to reprimand their husband for bad behavior, the majority of rights over how children are to be raised, the right to refuse to perform certain sex acts, the right to an equal education, the right to be supported by her husband and keep any premarital assets, assets earned during the marriage from work or inheritances as separate property from her husband's money, Cooking and cleaning is not the responsibility of the woman, necessarily, in Islam. She even has the right to nag and complain while her husband should listen and be sympathetic. All ot this is true in my marriage and if you think I am making this up, you should look in the Qur'an for yourself. All of this comes from verses of the Qur'an or from Mohamed's sayings. You may dismiss my situation as the exception but I know hundreds of Muslim women who are well-educated, equal members of their marriages and many of them are American women married to Muslims. I know of a handful that deal with domestic abuse in their relationships. But I also know of Christian women who deal with the same problem...

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