Age difference

Submitted by bewildered (United Kingdom), Oct 20, 2009 at 18:03

Hi Stephanie

yes, its so true what you say, these relationships that have a large age gap are only temporary, they may last like you say a few years maybe more, but eventually he will want children and find a young woman for this purpose. We all know that for a muslim man it is important for them to have children, it is a requirement in islam that they have children to fill half of their religion. I don't think the older woman can ever feel at ease in this situation but they are overwhelmed by all the attention that these men give them, I think they know deep inside that one day it will all come to an end and if not then they will be sharing their man with another wife, both options will break hearts. I have been involved with a younger muslim man but although I thought it was wonderful to have all this attention etc, I knew that even if he was true to his word ( which he wasn't) I would never be comfortable with the age gap, once involved though its hard to break away. When it does come to an end it hurts beyond belief and it takes a long time to get over, on saying that i am glad its over as looking back now I can see that it would never of worked out even if he had been genuine.

Most of these relationships are to serve a purpose, mostly to gain money, get a visa or just sex and fun. I have learned a lot from my experience and I can see more clearly now its over. I can see where I was blinded by my emotions, blinded to all the red flags that you ignore. Ladies, its not worth it i the end, IF IN DOUBT GET OUT!!

don't say mine is different, not with a big age gap, wishing you all the best xx

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