To cold feet. The Guy from Jordan

Submitted by innocence (France), Oct 24, 2009 at 08:53

Hi Cold Feet, You are very right to have your feet cold when thinking going down there to meet him. I do not know if you have read the stories on this blog but if not you better do so. I would suggest you to never go to meet him by your self. If you ever decide to do so , you could ask a friend ( preferably a male one) , a brother or even your father.... I assume that you have never met him in person & you are dating him on line. I have past through an on line date that lasted almost 2 years. My story is further down this blog. I would never go for an on line emotional involvement any more. It takes a lot of chemistry for a relationship to work & this chemistry can not be done right through a screen.

I still empathize with your emotions though towards this man. I do not know for how long you are dating the guy but even if its 2, 3 or 5 years , could you ever feel very comfortable to marry him without knowing him first in person very well, live together for some time or date him tet-a-tet? :) Sorry, I do not want to scare you & yes, your guy might be genuine, but I am posting here only to warn the women any way. I also agree, that there are some successful marriages which came out from online meetings, but are just few :-( Chances to be scammed within an on line date are much high! I was dating a middle eastern guy on line for 2 years & finally I found out his scam. Two years is a long time isn't it?

Now, I have moved on in my life, I am happily married to a westerner man & I can see the difference. During those two years dating on line , all what I had, it was just a picture of an exotic prince who loved me dearly, & I was his lovely princess who suppose to fly on the moon ......:) ( You know all these sweet words they say & make you to love them so much ) . He created that picture in my head by bombarding me with sweet talking & love words as well as weird excuses & lies which were covering his mistakes I was catching here & there in his chats. In my opinion, it could be much better him to visit you & not you . But, make sure you will not provide him with a green card. I do not live in USA , I am not sure how it works. What if he could book a ticket for a couple of weeks only as a visitor? Safer like this & is going to give the chance to both of you to get knowing in real & see from there. Never pay for his expenses!!!!! If you do so he is probably a scam.Arabs suppose to never accept money from women!!! Also, sex only after marriage please ;-) As arab women do ;-)

Take Care Cold Feet ! xxxxxxxxxxx

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