Heartfelt Advice for Sarah on Cyprus Marriage and Egyptian man

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Oct 28, 2009 at 20:29

Hi there Sarah!

Well, Sarah, first of all---two weeks??!?

That's not enough to really know someone, and I think that's really why you started looking this stuff up on-line, because you are not sure and you want some quick answers. Sarah, a good, fulfilling marriage simply cannot come from quick answers, especially in this day and age.

Listen, the sooner an "I love you" or a marriage proposal comes, the worse the situation is. This kind of behaviour is more common than you may think, and it pretty much always mean the man has a sinister motive.

A quick marriage is a classic red flag, and it's done to people in order to get them to enter into a legal agreement before they can process what is going on. The principle is very simple: people who are spontaneous are much more likely to buy into things.

I once had a Russian woman tell me she loved me in the second e-mail. All she had from me was a few sentences a dated picture.

Is that real love?

You say that you want to return to Cyprus to marry this man. What this tells me is that he is taking advantage of your confusion and is 100% in the drivers seat. I don't know if you recently ended a relationship, but if you did, this would be a classic case of a rebound--one that you don't want.

Either way, Sarah, this smells like a major scam. The other thing is---if this man is after a visa, he's digging into a dry well, because the UK has become very restrictive on who gets to come into the country. In a previous post, I advised that UK citizens ought to avoid these relationships because the chance of their partner getting any sort of long-term stay in the UK are slim to none.

Sarah, I understand that you are probably really attracted to this man. I'm sure he has been really nice, charming and supportive of you, and perhaps you've never a man like before. I mean let's face it, men like that are hard to come by these days, aren't they?

But the thing is, Sarah, an international, distance relationship with a man who submits a marriage proposal so quickly will only hurt you in the long run. This really does not good to me, and I think that you really need to ask yourself if you would even consider such a proposal if the man was from the UK, because if you would not, there is a double standard, and it really puts you at a disadvantage.

Sarah, the first thing you must understand is that you have a say here, too. Don't let this man lead you around the nose and make decisions for you.

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