Reply to Just asking on red flags

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Oct 28, 2009 at 22:16

Hi there just asking!!! Welcome! I hope that things are well in the Phillipines!

The thing about red flags is that they are a guide that help people on this site find out if their relationship is bogus or not.

What does not get said on here a lot is that if there are no red flags, it does not mean what you have will last or that it is real. It just means there are no red flags. Remember, in addition to the scammers, you've got your usual pool of nonsense and users out there and the cultural differences.

Also, there are a lot more scams and lies out there besides a visa. Just because you are from the Phillipines, does mean that this man is geninue. In fact, he may just be using you just because you are from a different place and a different race. It would not be the first time.

The red flags most common are:

1) Being on-line at 3 am local time. Do you really want a man who is up all hours of the night surfing the net? People who do that are almost always up to no good, I would say.

2) Asking for money. This is an interesting one, because clever, experienced scammers know never to ask directly for money. Instead, the general idea is to make you feel like you have to give them money.

3) Changing his story

4) Giving you double accounts---one time he's a Christian, the next a Muslim, ect.

5) Not talking to you when he's on-line

6) Facebook, myspace and other social networking profiles where he has a bunch of women friends out of proportion with male friends.

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