Luigi

Submitted by Lisa USA (United States), Oct 30, 2009 at 01:13

Luigi, I don't post here to try and convince you or anyone my relationship is real. Im not sure why you feel constantly you have to post that tid-bit here. I know my relationship and I have never asked you or anyone on this board for your opinions. I have never doubted my husband and I still do not. He is working 12 hr shifts to save for when he is here and there is a 5 hr difference. My husband always answers his cell phone no matter the time or if he is at work.....My husband doesn't ask or take anything from me still even as we are married and he reminds me often how i need to be patient instead of me having to tell him. I am married to a muslim and I can see clearly non of his patterns or characteristics are like the ones posted here. Therefore I can see and give advice comparing when one man seems to put pressure on another woman rushing her for quick judgments and asking to come to live with her and wanting a visa. I can give scenerios and leave it to her to decide since it is her life and choices. My husband doesn't have patience for things too, but when it comes to love, he is patient.
As far as the age factor, You are wrong about it too. As I have stated before my mother was married to a man about 10 years younger than her and he loved her and died a couple years ago still with my mom and sleeping with my mom and he had absolutely no children of their own but he raised her grandkids as his own and loved them dearly so don't come here and post how you have all this knowlege and no one else does when you don't seem to know all the facts on relationships. How can you, you are much younger than most all the posters here (much younger than my husband too)and you have a few women you dated on-line and you have never been married or being in a marriage for years to know what relationships consists of. Its a lot of give and take to make a marriage work. You don't gain this knowlege from universities or research. As far as adopting a "SON", my husband is very mature and has good ways and beliefs on life. I am lucky to have such a wonderful man. Why is it you have to keep trying to find fault with our marriage? You don't know either of us to make that call and ASSumption. You claim to be Christian and always putting Islam down and comparing but yet you are so quick to judge innocent people. You are bad too to put words in people's mouth. I wish you would not do that!
As I have said before, we both wear our wedding rings proudly. Its a token of our love not just a piece of jewelry.
My husband has never taken anything from me. He buys his own clothes, pays his own medical, supports himself. He will pay for his own flight here and immigration fees on his end. He is working 12 hr shifts to save money and he does save money and doesn't splurge with his spending. I can't say the same for others on this board. His family paid for our marriage celebration party and my gowns. They even helped him pay for our rings even his. They know I am a working mother and not well-off. Do you think I will live my life wondering and thinking my husband will leave me for a younger woman? I can tell you no. I am not a worrying type person or nervous person. I speak my mind and I carry my own and am a strong willed woman. I always have been. My husband knows this of my character. My husband and I will be fine. I am a young-minded woman and not a "Boring" older woman, I can promise you this. Just ask my husband,lol and my friends.

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