Luigi's comments to Lina re;Lisa

Submitted by Lisa (United States), Nov 1, 2009 at 14:50

Quick marriage, visa, Lisa running around here defending him, ect. All the signs are there, Lina. I am convinced he's up to no good. I've seen the exact behavior before and I've experienced myself.

Lisa's posts concern me not just for herself, but because she has put forth information that I find to be incorrect and that needs to be contended.

Quick marriage? We got married 14 months after spending every single day together. Not a day went by that this man was not there when he said he would be and sometimes waiting for me when I was late. or he would talk to my kids while he waited me and that was after I made my first trip Luigi that we worked on setting a date and a next trip. Don't act like it was a month I want a visa type of relationship. You could see the love in his eyes as I lit up around him too and I still do.... My husband never took money and guess what he still does not ask or accept even if I offer and I am his wife! He paid for our rings, his family paid for my dresses and all food, and alot of family members were there to witness. He was proud to introduce me to friends as his fiance and afterwards his wife. They all thought i was french and he usually didn't correct them that I was American for the ones who thought I was French. As far as Lisa running around here defending him, how many times have you posted insults to the both of us cause I would post against what you said about all these men being bad? How many times have you insulted my husband and said he is after a visa when infact there has not being one red flag except for me being 9 months older and as I have told you too here his Moroccan grlfrnd before me was about 7 years older than him. He doesn't like young girls ways and a lot of men are like this right here in America Luigi. Its not for you to judge my husband. He hasn't treated me rude, disrespectful, moody, overly jealous, any signs of a man with a bad character and I have seen him firsthand with many friends in casual conversations and have been around these friends young and older for hours in the public and I have seen his interactions with nieces, nephews, sisters brother,mom,etc. I have also seen how they have been brought up too to get an idea what type family they are. His mom bonded with me trying to teach me Arabic. She has cried upset when we stayed at another sisters house and chose not to stay in the family home. She presented me and my girls with gifts. They didn't expect me to lavish them with gifts which is usually the case with these families. Its not for you to take upon yourself to decide in your opinion if my husband is after a visa. Im a smart woman Luigi. I always have been. Im not naive and I don't have to have a man. I know when someone is playing me. I haven't seen any signs and if I do in the future believe me, I will not be so hurt as to can't function or go on. I have always from age of 17 provided for myself.....We don't know the future. Its what we make of it. All I can say is I know my husband can help me in many ways cause he has helped me with things in my life and he makes good decisions when it comes to family matters and he is always concerned and never fails to ask about my kids including the 23 year old dispite his behaviour. He can be ready to hang up the phone and remember to ask about them. Anyway as I said, you can't possibly know my husband better than myself and I sent EVERY SINGLE chat log from EVERY SINGLE day including daily e-mails to immigration. Not one day was left out! Leave it in their hands quit assuming the worst of all these men.

Luigi some are used to arranged marriages and meeting someone on-line who you think you are compatible with or can be attracted too when you don't want your own, and some men simply do not, have no choice but to meet these women in person to see if anything they feel on-line is mutual. I know my husband was not the one who was asking me to marry Luigi. I have posted that here before. Simply opposite of what you read here on this blog from others and the pressures and mentioning of visa's. He even told me we would have to meet in person and see how we both feel. There was no pressure from this man and we were great together and we are both pleased. He seems just as happy as I am. As I have posted before, he doesn't even ask about our visa process. He knows when I hear something I will tell him. Quit judging my husband and posting here he is a liar scam artist and wanting a visa! You don't know my husband or me for that matter. Only Immigration and time will tell and how we both work at our marriage. I can tell you I am serious about my marriage and he seems to be too and we have discussed moving back to Morocco one day if the situation is right. Leave us to live our lives and if I post my knowldge here from my experiences, you should not get upset if my experiences go against what you tell others. They need to know BOTH sides and some men can be telling the TRUTH!

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