To Cold Feet on Jordanian man and quick marriage

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Nov 3, 2009 at 22:31

Lisa thank you so much, I think you hit the nail on the head, so to speak. I suffer from panic attacks and taking my best friend forever with me will help me deal with the traveling. I am sure I will be taking something to calm me down when we go, but I am glad I have such a good friend to go with me, not many "friends" would do this, and she would. I am blessed

Bringing her along will not affect outcome even it makes you feel better.

You are talking about marriage to a man you have never even met. Lisa USA at least her man before marrying him but that is no promise that he is real either. Whenever international marriages occur, it can take months, even years for the real person to emerge.

There was one case here in America where a man from Idaho married a girl from Russia. And he went out of his way for her and in the end, she waited three years so that she could learn English, get documentation and naturalization, and then POOF! She was gone.

Same thing has happened to women who meet Middle Eastern men on-line.

That's why they rush into marriage, cold feet, and talk about it even before meeting you, because once that contract is signed, they can get what they want.

Yes Lisa. this man has been there for me no matter when I need him, what time of day, to listen to me, to support me, to advise me, he is always available to me no matter what. The reason I have not gone there yet is because I did not have the money to travel, now I do. I am excited, happy, nervous and cautious all at the same time. He is a great man, soft spoken, polite, but not fake.

That is how it always starts off, Cold Feet. The reality is that you do not know this man simply by talking to him on the internet. That is why you came on here, right? Because you were not certain.

The idea of packing, buying a ticket, getting a passport, etc, has been getting me very nervous. Not all these feelings can be blamed on the "man". I suffer from panick attacks, I get the same feeling when I go to walmart, or the super market, if I am due for a panic attack, it will happen, as a matter of fact about one year ago this month, my man started getting them also, so we have yet another thing in common, something else to share and to help each other through, he is truely my blessing. I can't wait to see him

It sounds like you might have a social anxiety disorder. Your confusion is understanable, cold feet, but all relationships, even the ones that turn bad, start of like this. I'm not convinced you know this man and that you would be nervous regardless (other women on here feel the same way)

I would also caution you on taking the advice of posters on here like Lisa USA. I have been on here for 2 years now, and there are some women who will give negiligent even phoney advice just to make their relationship seem real.

I can understand your attraction to this man, but any on-line relationship is a gamble at best. You are riskign a lot here, cold feet and I am not convinced that this is real.

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