still caring

Submitted by bewildered (United Kingdom), Nov 25, 2009 at 19:59

Hi Jasmine

remember you are not alone, we are here on this site to help each other, its better to feel alone sometimes than to be in a destructable relationship with these men. Just think about what life would be like if you had still been with him! you would never have had any peace in your mind, so we need to thank the lord that we are out of it all. Most of them are unfaithful, its a known fact with muslim men, even if not at the beginning then you can bet your bottom dollar that they will be unfaithful somewhere down the line. Read what the duties are of an islamic wife that I posted,( from an islamic website) who on earth would want to live that kind of life! That is not love, its ownership and control, these men have it all handed on a plate without much effort on their part, they are raised to believe this is the womans role in life, pandering to their every whim. Its a mans world in their country and they would die if they were treated the same as women. I know you still have feelings for him and you can't change how you feel but we can do something about it if we want to lead a happy in life, we cannot live on love alone, and what they expect of us as a wife just destroys it all. I hope you can move on as i am doing and i am feeling better now every day, in time you will too.

All the very best Jasmine, don't go back just move forwards to a better life. Take care x

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