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Submitted by Zella (United States), Dec 7, 2009 at 23:37

I fully understand your feelings for this man but let me give you some advice. Do not expect too much and you won't be disappointed. Perhaps you have found a Moroccan man who is honest and caring. On the other hand, if he hasn't communicated with you but twice since he returned to his country, there is a reason. The primary reason is that you are a woman and in his culture a woman should never question what a man does and where he goes. These men have been taught to be secretive and, yes, many are deceptive. I can assure you that his family is pressuring him to marry. A man of marriagable age brings shame to the family if he does not marry a virginal Muslim woman and have children. This is the culture and chances are it will never change.

One way to increase your knowledge is to purchase some books on the culture and religion, Islam. The culture and religion are one-in-the-same. Culture Shock authored by Orin Hargraves is a good one to start with and Islam The Religion and the People by Bernard Lewis is also one that I highly recommend. You can purchase the books on Amazon. Knowledge is powerful and if you plan on having a relationship with this man, you will need to be well armed with knowledge.

Good Luck and I wish you well.

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