Straight forward advice on Moroccan man dating older woman--From a male perspective

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Dec 10, 2009 at 00:04

Hi there Flower!!!

First of all, let's put aside the fact that is man is Moroccan. There's something you need to be aware of.

Regardless of what others (women especially) tell you about this, there is an unwritten rule among men:

Divorced women with kids are easy targets for sex, a good time, and yes, even gifts and money.

Marketers can and will take advantage of your situation as well, especially once they find out you have money.

The most important thing I can tell you about this is the following:

1) As a guy, if this man were seriously interested in you, he would take the time to get to know you and talk to you, and I am very worried that he will return and profess his undying love for you, which you may think is sweet and a relief that he feels the same way.

That's an almost certain sign something is up and a screaming red flag.

If he really did love you, you'd probably hear from him more than twice.

2) There are plenty of other bad motives as to why he would want you besides a green card.

3) The reality is that I don't think he's serious about this at all, certainly not as serious as you are. If I were a betting man in Vegas, I would bet that he's not on-line pondering his future with you.

Listen, Flower, you sound like a decent lady who is just looking for love and to be loved in return, but given your situation, please don't rush into things. Women who are divorced tend to do this and I'm convinced its because women have that instinct to nest, and they do settle a lot of times for dopey men just to have that comfort.

I understand that you are attracted to this man, and I would venture to guess that he treats you much better than any Western man has, but you've got see this situation for what it is and from all angels, not just the good ones, okay?

If you want to talk to Lisa, I would encourage you to do so. On a side note, I think Mary Ann might be quite surprised at what Lisa would have to say. I've never seen her encourage someone to walk around blindly in a situation like this and if she did that to you, it would be a first.

I think it's also worth noting why you came on here, Flower. You say that you love this man, but it's very clear to me that you cannot bring yourself to trust him with your heart. A lot of women come on here with this uncertainty, and it's usually because their logical mind and instincts conflict with their hearts.

I just don't see this working out Flower, not because he may be poor or Moroccan, but because he just does not seem geninuely interested in you.

And I want you to know that you can and will find support on here, regardless of what others think or say.

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