Simply Said

Submitted by Soso (United States), Dec 14, 2009 at 02:35

Well the man I knew was exactly like this and I lived with him for a while. It's wasn't a strict online relationship. I knew the man for five years. I lived with him in Cairo and here in the states. He did almost exactly everything to a T on that list Amber presented. Do you know he had me make him breakfast every morning. He expected me to bring it to him in bed but not once did he ever volunteer to do the same in any way for me. It's not like it would have ever bothered me because I like to make my man happy but he never showed he cared for me like I did for him in any loving way, once he made it to the States. Yet he did everything for me in Cairo. Maybe the guy you knew was an exception, who know?. Where you with him in his country? My guy was a sweetheart in his country. He didn't change until he got here.

Your one guy compared to a whole list of women with bad experiences won't change anyones mind. I'd say to any woman ready to risk everything, protect your yourself, your money, don't give these men a dime, don't sleep with them until you are married in a mosque legally and legit, make him sign an agreement saying he can't marry any other woman while you are married and also make sure you get a large sum of money if he requests a divorce to marry another woman. Just make sure you protect yourself legally and watch the signs of mistreatment. If he belittles you by treating you bad, he isn't a good person. That's just it. Walk away. Don't make excuses for him. Just remember how you would treat a man you loved. You would never want him to feel pain, hurt him by saying mean things, and you wouldn't want him to sacrifice a ton of money at your expense knowing he really didn't have it and knowing you would never compensate him. We all know this, when we truly love someone we would try our upmost to protect, cherish and take care of them. If you feel doubts about your Arabic Man, most like you have good reasons to worry. He obviously gave you reason to doubt...think about it.

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