proposal over the internet

Submitted by bewildered (United Kingdom), Dec 14, 2009 at 20:35

Hi Sabrina

welcome, I think you are right this all sounds too good to be true, im sure these men can find a muslim women in their own country without searching on the net but money is the main thing that prevents them from marrying. It seems a hard road to go down to look for love on the internet and travelling 1000's miles leaving his family just to get married, but then there must be an added bonus to all this effort and it seems the dream of living and working abroad paints a very rosey picture for them. I;m not saying you can't find love on the internet as some do work out but many don't as you have read on here. Also there are many red flags in your posting, he is saying all the words that you are hearing from a gigolo's textbook , these words are well known to all the men who scam, he is wanting to marry you and you have sent him money for his financial problems?( its a shame to ask any women for money as you know he should be the provider of his woman) he talks to others on line when talking to you,( mine did too and i found out he was talking to lots of women) he wears a silver ring on his finger but states he wears it for you?? ( mine said this to me too.. its all lies) he probably has a wife already and his family are supporting his relationship with you because they will all benefit if he gets his citizenship in England. His brother lives in France and his sister in belgium? yes , they are earning good money and could help him out ( thats if he is telling the truth but i somehow doubt it ) The calling, texts and net are common practice too, I was told once on here that I was one of many women but chose to ignore it thinking mine was a good man lol.You are obviously uncomfortable with whats happening here and I would be also knowing what I know now, if you continue i'm afraid you will have much heartache and financially you will be milked dry. All these things are the works of a professional con artist and I advice you to break free and heal your heart now before its too late. I went through all the same emotions too doubting him and feeling guilty for this, but i wished I had listened to my instincts about this type of behaviour as i wouldn't have had to leave feeling like a broken hearted idiot. I have since spoken to other muslim men from egypt/ morroco/ iran etc on line and they all proffess their love very quick!!! I should be so lucky to have many men love me and miss me so much!!!

Take care and think hard about this , i wish you well

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