To Amanda on On-line Dating with Moroccan Man

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Dec 19, 2009 at 20:10

Hi Amanda

First of all, the reason you don't know if this is real or not is because only so much information can be communicated on-line. As a woman, you simply do not have enough information to satisfy yourself. If he's been 100% honest with you, you're getting maybe 30% of what you would on a real date--it's even less if he's lying.

As someone who has investid and personally tried on-line relationships, I firmly believe that real, matrimonial love does not nor cannot happen on-line. At the very least it's a gamble, one that often gives the geninue (or better) person the short end of the stick. I see this kind of stuff all the time in court.

If you really loved him that much, I think you would be able to trust him. And anyone who has to search for answers on-line about a partner they think they love clearly does not trust them. If you were so convinced that he was a good guy, I doubt you'd be looking this stuff up on-line.

The fact that you think he might be talking to someone else---Is this because he goes on-line and sets it to away or is on and does not talk to you? Because if he were truly in love with you, and if he cared, he would take time to acknowledge your presence.

I see this as a real problem here, Amanda.

A lot of scammers and cheaters do in fact talk to other "clients" on-line. It is possible that he even has multiple accounts he uses to talk to other men.

So, there are a couple of red flags here, Amanda. The fact that you need to ask for information from strangers on-line and your concern over his on-line activity.

I realize that this is difficult for you and I understand completely that you have strong feelings for this man. However, this is what someone with sinister motives always banks on to get what they want.

I'm not convinced by any means that what you have is real.

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