Watch out

Submitted by stuck (United States), Dec 21, 2009 at 12:15

I have been married to a Moroccan man for 8 years now. He has been a liar and a scammer from day one. They are charming in the beginning and by six months to a year you will see by living with them their crappy ways will come out. I caught him in so many lies, I even chatted with my husbands ex-boss to get answers and she has her own version of how he sends money over to Morocco. He is barely a provider for the kids and once the green card came, he was a complete different person. Online dating is not the way to go if you really are looking for a good guy. I have been trying to get out of this marriage and have consulted with lawyers and it does not fit into the divorce bucket. You state that you have talked to his family online as well, so if they seem nice, you don't know their intentions once you get into Morocco.

My advice if it is no too late, do not go to meet this guy, he is probably not working, no education and he and his family will parasite off of you. I also have issues with my husband's mother because she used to be always on his back on what kinds of funds I have and when my mother passed away and left a house, over in Morocco, his family go really interested. I told my husband, that the wife's money stays in the United States and never goes over to Morocco. They have him digging through my walls of my pre-marital house looking for funds, it has just been pure awful meeting him and being stuck. He won't leave, he wants me to buy him out and does not care if the kids go to college. I met him 8 years ago at a gas station near my job and I said NO when I met him but a friend thought he was good and I believed in my friends instincts and I really got punched in the face. My husband steals, his sisters steal, some of the brothers are drunks and drug users and no jobs at all. Some of them are in their late 20's and 40's still living in the parents house while the father goes off to his business all day.

But I am telling you be aware and disconnect from him, he has nothing to offer you but pure hell on earth. One lawyer told me that the man in arab countries have all of the power and the women have no say, and I see it with my husband's family that the sisters and mother can't do me. You better do your research before flying over and catch hell. And if you have kids, they will have dual nationality and it is big in these arab countries to take the kids from you and you can't get the kid back!! You can't be in love with someone you have not physically met. I now have 4 psychologist involved with my marriage because my husband is such a mess and very little upbringing. We have been to marriage counseling and even the counselor has stated that I married a piece of shit. I got laid off from my job and he gave me no money for gas but leaves rent free, mortgage free in my home and does close to nothing for the kids and he is waiting for me to get another job so HE can get a $800,000 home and the marriage counselor said to that is that he wants that house all for himself, not for the family. So this is a pure user and his mother is no better. Another thing, it is big over in Morocco on tarot cards, spells, and magic and in the beginning, I did not know that but caught on later in the marriage on what the mother does.

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