Some Insights

Submitted by Munam (United States), Dec 28, 2009 at 19:59

You probably won't get a response from anyone except me simply because you are asking legitimate questions that should elicit common sense and insightful responses. Unfortunately there tends to be an epidemic of lack of common sense and insight in the world.

Please understand that I am not; never have been; and never will be involved in one of the so-called "relationships" described on this blog. I found this blog by accident while I was researching some of Dr Pipes' materials. I do know, however, that if I ever decide to pursue a Ph.D, I'm going to write my dissertation on the personalities of women who have all the freedoms in the world and, yet, will forfeit those freedoms for men who don't even know the definition of "love" and "respect". I also want to learn how someone falls "in love" with a web cam photo. I also would like to know why women will send their hard-earned money to a man they know absolutely nothing about. All of these behaviors are quite foreign to me and to be perfectly honest, I never expected women with freedoms and resources to be so gullible. Why would an older woman even entertain the idea that a much younger man would want them for a long-term relationship. I surely don't want a much older man and I shouldn't expect a much younger man to want me for a long-term relationship should I?

I am a proud woman who was raised to exercise good common sense and impulse control. "Look before you leap" was a lesson that I learned early in life. In other words, "keep your eyes open and proceed with caution". Munam, I think some women are just plain desperate for attention and will succumb to the first snake charmer that plays his flute. Perhaps many of these women do not have a strong sense of self and will fall for the first scammer that comes their way. As you must know, an education does not guarantee that a person is going to exercise good common sense and understand that everything that glitters isn't gold. I know people who have advanced degrees but have poor interpersonal and social skills and absolutely no motivation to do the "right thing".

When I read some of the blogs, I feel very sad on one hand and angry on the other. Women in the United States couldn't vote until the early 1900's and were treated as house servants. Today women can do anything they want to do and, yet, some will relinguish their freedoms and self respect for a little attention.

Perhaps my post is confusing but I hope it answers some of the questions you posed. In summary, I think these women lack a strong sense of self and are living in a fantasy world. Being a realist on this blog puts one in a minority thinking mode. I respond to some questions that some of the women pose and trust me, very rarely do I get a response. The lack of response reminds me of another one of grandmother's teachings.."he who says nothing says much".

I hope you receive some other responses to your questions but please don't hold your breath.

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