Response to no name on man-defense post

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Dec 28, 2009 at 23:10

STL, you may not have matrimonial love from talks on the net but I do know you can develop feelings for the person, enough to feel even stronger once you two are together and share alone and intimate time together

There is nothing "intimate" about the internet, and if you don't have matrimonal love, why did you bother to marry this man?

These feelings you speak of are often an illusion.

weeks or months at a time and each trip to see him your feelings are even stronger if you have a good man that has shown good intentions with one who is caring and giving and not selfish.

Scammers and liars always show good intentions. It's how they gain your trust.

The net can be a great distance- co mmunication tool. Without it, you would never meet others from afar.

Most people who talk on-line to someone they've never met will not meet. In fact, scammers are even more successful with men and get them to fork over money before they even meet. All they need is some sweet talk and a stolen model picture.

The internet is no different from relationships that were done before its time via pen-pal or phone. There are docucmented cases of those being just as bizarre as any that you'll find on here. There is nothing really all that special or unique about the internet.

Some misuse the net for their own monetary gain or else Visa. I am perfectly aware of this.

They also use it play around with women and trick them in marriages. Visa and money are not the only reasons to screw someone over.

Given a couple of years into these relationships, you can learn much about ones character over a period of time.

Actually, there's only so much you can learn about someone over the internet if they are 100% honest. If they lie, it's even less.

You're getting--at best--a little over a third of the information on-line compared to a real date. You cannot feel his touch, mirror his motions

Matrimonal love and love itself doesn't happen overnight STL. Love only grows stronger with time and bonding. It is the same with our husbands/fiances. These men are used to picking wifes or in some cases having family members pick their wife for them.

Ah, I see. So pity was a motive for your marriage to your Moroccan man? No wonder why you don't seem to trust him.

Do you think in this case, these men LOVE or have matrimonial love onsight? No, love takes time and it has to develop it doesn't matter if its the net or in person.

The difference is that is rarely develops over the internet and that it is more likely to happen in person. It's all about communication.

I think when you are away from one another and you trully love one another, two hearts can grow fonder and you learn to appreciate one another and admire each other's strengths and patience.

The problem is that:

1) Real love does not happen on-line because of the communication gap and

2) Whether intentional or not, the reason why men attract women on here so much is because they ignore them and hence act like a challenge. This is clearly what you are getting at and as a guy I can tell you that we tend to attract women we are not interested in a lot more than women we are interested in.

We are well aware our love will get stronger if you both have good intentions and if he or you do not, love will break itself and you will be another statistic on this board complaining.

Except for yours, I'm sure (rolls eyes)

And from what I can tell, the women on here who complain have good reason to do so.

Love and marriage is what you make of it. It takes TWO to make a marriage or partnership work and last.

It does, and somehow, I doubt your husband is on Arab and Muslim message boards talking you and his marriage to you up. It would not surprise me at all if while you are defending him on here, he's out with other women.

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