Response to no-name

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Dec 29, 2009 at 00:05

STL, Gina did not say she was "unhappy" and needed to get out of her marriage.

A lot of people who come on here don't really have to say it, they communicate what's going on by how they say things and by the tone of a defensive reaction that appears to be more and more custom on here once again.

This is the same thing you do with Lisa when she posts and says anything positive.

While this statement is absolutely incorrect, it's interesting how you write that in the present tense. It just makes me feel like you haven't really read all that much between myself and Lisa.

I really don't see how searching for sites like these and spending hours and hours on them, especially when you supposedly have an amazing, flawless husband/father/on-line buddy/wife/whatever.

I mean, my posts must really be a lot more interesting that I think to draw attention away from such wonderful people.

And to top it all off, you have kids, and here you are, making false accusations against me.

Also, no name, you just might be surprised at what Lisa would think of your relationship. Her advice to others on here has been straightforward and she has not hesitated to question their relationships.

But, that's how the wind blows. "My relationship is real, but it's okay/I don't care if the others are not".

Seen it all before.

Also, you just might want to be careful who you try and defend on here----besides your husband of course.

Gina is posting from her experience something positive and you want to turn it into something negative. You do this with all positive posters.

I fail to see how writing mean-spirited essays loaded with insults towards myself and others, going out of your way to take what someone on here says personally, and perhaps most important defending a relationship to total strangers that you think is real when your behavior illustrates the exact opposite is positive.

Those who are in positive (ie secure, stable relationships where they trust their partner) are busy enjoying each other, their kids and could care less about what I or anyone else on here says.

I'm sorry I can't say the same for you or the others who waste their time writing defense posts.

Perhaps even more significantly---they don't even have to go searching on-line about each other or their religion/ethnic origin/race/ect.

If someone does not agree with you and post anything good, they are ranting, etc.

Sadly, no name, most of the man-defense posts on here are ranting--to the point where some of the posts are difficult to read

You like to insult others by taking what they say , turning it into what you want it to read. Im sorry, I am being truthful here.

No, all I do is uncover the facts, however inconvient that may be, and you are being anything but truthful. Being critical is not the same as being insulting.

I think you need to re-read (or read) the posts on here and see who's insulting who. Hint--you'll find plenty in Lisa's replies to me.

We get it, you are against on-line dating, and you got a bad taste in the mouth from it, but on-line dating doesn't have to be a bad thing.

But it is. Have you not seen the stories on here? Just look at yourself, no name. You're on here defending your man and this is nothing new. You think that on-line dating is okay because I don't think you've ever been scammed on-line before, and if your man does indeed screw you over (there's a good chance he could), you'll probably have a new light on the subject.

The fact that you think it doesn't have to be bad changes absolutely nothing.

Not all these men have bad intentions. Some are really true and good-hearted.

As a guy, I can tell you the men who are good-hearted and have good intentions:

1) Don't go gallavanting on-line for love and affection

2) Are not on-line at 3 am local time. The night-shift excuse is all to common for all to rare scenario

3) Really won't look for a wife across the ocean

4) Will take the time to get to know you--in person, not on-line.

5) Most good Moroccan men will end marrying Moroccan women.

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