Supporting Advice for the Aftermath

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Dec 31, 2009 at 03:22

Hi there Flower

It would be insenstive for me to say "that is how life goes", but I do want you to know that what happened to you is very common. I think a lot of women on here tend to forget this because many of them have been married for so long it feels like a first date all over again. It's certainly an understandable experience, but it's also important to be aware of it.

Flower, I understand how you feel about the situation, and yes, I undrestand those strong feelings that you have. I've seen this so many times over the years and been through it myself. The pattern is the same and will be the same 100 years from now.

Is it possible that this man would taken advantage of you? Sure, but I don't think that's really relevant, here Flower.

It sounds like you feel there may have been a chance here because this was not on an on-line ordeal, but understand that if you let your feelings run away with you, you'll still be blinded to whats really going on.

If a man---Moroccan or not--- is not going to give you the time of day, is he really worth thinking about?

Take it from a guy, Flower, this man just didn't have any interest in you. And it really does not matter how pure and geninue you feel about him or treat him, it takes two to tango, and no matter how much you may want to, or convince yourself that you can, you can't do it for him.

There is something else I want to say to all the women on here---it's not just Moroccan men who will take advantage of divorced, vulernable women. It's okay to have strong feelings for a guy, even one you don't necessarily know that well, but just make sure that you listen to those wise female instincts of yours.

The best thing I can say at this point Flower is to get out, have fun with your friends and family and treat yourself.

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