To Anon 1

Submitted by Flower (United States), Jan 1, 2010 at 18:15

You're probably right. Actually though, I was wrong about him being back here in this country. He is still in Morocco. He told me he was going to be gone for a month, but now he says he's not sure if he wants to come back here because it's too expensive and too hard to make a living. I have never given him any indication that I'd give him money...he sort of made a joke about it once and I joked back and that was the end of the conversation about money. I would want both of us to have more self-respect than that.

Although, what makes me think you're right is that that was the last of our emails...and he hasn't answered a lot of questions that I put forth to him. I think that deep down, he really is a good person. But he's just very poor and very frustrated. Oh..and he told me that he got his green card by the lottery over there for green cards. He says that the living expenses are cheaper in Morocco, which I would presume is true. Since I did not meet him on the internet, my experience is unique to most of the women on this site. True, I am older than him...but I've got to say that when I first met him, I thought that he was at least 10 years older than he really is (not that he's not very handsome...he is...but he's just kind of balding). And he does not know how old I am, but everyone guesses me for at least 12-15 years younger than I am. Seriously....I have a very girl next door look. Anyway..so who knows what he was thinking when he first asked me for my number. Only he knows this.

But, to reiterate...I do think that he's a good person. He just doesn't know what he wants out of life yet and maybe he's just ashamed about not having money or material things. I just wish he'd answer the questions I asked him...questions that I thought to ask him after reading this blog and learning so much about what goes on in the minds of many Moroccan men. I want to think the best about him, but I guess if he doesn't return the last email, I will have to think the worst. Which makes me just so sad. I felt such a connection with him....and it pains me to think that my radar could have been so off about someone's character if it's true that his intentions were nefarious right from the start. Thank you for your comment though...I really appreciate it!!! Happy New Year to everyone here...I hope that 2010 brings us all good things!!!!!!

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