Ummm Okay

Submitted by noonesbusiness (United States), Jan 1, 2010 at 21:44

First of all I was generalizing to get a rise out of you. It hurts when you feel insulted doesn't it? I didn't mean what I said. The thing is, your words are an insult to some of these women that have felt pain. I just ask for you to be a little sympethitic. If I formed an opinion on hearsay or judged without proper knowledge, then I wouldn't be fair, would I? And so without proper knowledge my friend, I would never assume anything or judge these women if I were you. These women can be absolutely beautiful or ugly. I've been to the Middle East and a lot of women aged a lot faster. Maybe it is the sun or that they tend to stay at home, raise kids and have little exercise. I don't know. But, I can tell you a lot of 25 year olds could have passed for being in their 30's when it came to the texture of their skin, their body size etc... I guess these women weren't told to use a retinol type of cream starting at age 15 if they wanted to still look beautiful by the time they were in their 40's:) Yes they need to. A lot of women here do take care of themselves and still look hot at 40 but why they would want a baby as a mate is beyond me. Yes, a lot of women get fat and the ones that do take care, well most likely they are taken.

As for me, I am happily married and still I get hit on continually by these men from other countries. They could careless that I am married. It seems very odd to me and it really don't believe it gives Allah a good name when women see this from the majority of men in these countries. They need to have some self respect.

Most of the time these men would take advantage of any woman but they go for whatever they can get because they are desperate. Yet coming here to the USA usually will not be great for their life, but for their offspring maybe. It is a hard life for them because they have to take the worst jobs here even with an education. They are not respected like in their countries. Most have a inflated idea of how it would be for them in the USA. It isn't as great as they thought it would be usually, when they get here.

They are good at their job of faking their emotions and these women just think these men are like any other western man in their emotions which is just not true. The truth is, western men don't usually marry a woman so easily or lie just to get married with other intents. Why would they? So women are shocked that some man can totally fake in this area just for some monetary reason. They don't understand these men, the cultural different and the hardships that they come from that would make them suscumb to such a lowly thing.

I personally don't think they are gorgeous, well the majority, since they tend to be kind of poor. Their teeth tend to be bad, stained yellow, they smoke a lot, and they have a lot of problems. Here I am married and I have had men demand me to open my cam that I don't even know. They do get deleted pretty fast. I also think it is impossible to have a real friendship with an Arabic man if you are a woman. They will always try to ask something sexual etc...when they wouldn't dare do this to a man. Maybe they just have a preprogrammed idea of western women but if a man ever does this to me at all, he is deleted. I am sweet and I won't be pressured from some ignorant man.

On the other hand, I have no idea of Pakistani people but I do know from experience, my taste in men. I don't usually like Irish men, freckly, or very dark men either. I don't like men with extreme curly hair or straight. Wavy is great. I am an inbetween girl but that doesn't mean I like men that Middle East. I tend not to like Mexican men but men from some Hispanic Countries might impress me. :) Now I will not answer anyone else that saw fit to think I was out of line. I was just trying to show you, you can't find these women crazy just because they got attached to someone online. We don't know the situation. I am in my 30's and I get a ton of attention locally, everywhere and online. I just don't let it go to my head. I visited a friend and while staying with them she said all her neighbors asked who I was, using the term beautiful. I am still in my 30's and that might be repugnant to you but I still get a ton of attention. On yahoo I use an id called: thevenetiana and you can go to Vizgin and see the profile pic. My hair is almost down to my butt, very dark, I am blue eyed and look similiar to the actresses in Bollywood but I am Syrian, Indian and white. I am not ugly. I am sure a lot of these women aren't. Stil, personally, I would never want a younger man for marriage. Yeah sexually :) Just teasing.

The thing is, some women can be 10 years older than a man and look younger or beautiful. Some men can be also. You should not judge. Just because you don't like anyone any older than you, well you will find other men that do. It's a preference. Also, some men actually like women with a little experience because these women know how to please their man better than a young girl would. They also know how to please themselves and know what want and like. But then, that would make a woman a whore uh? Ummm. No, it just make a woman wiser in my opinion. Good luck.

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