really!!

Submitted by bewildered (United Kingdom), Jan 3, 2010 at 21:41

Hi Russian Doll if you think that you will be treated like a queen after your'e married then your'e in for a suprise. Yes muslim men can be so romantic and charmig, but if you think his possessiveness and controlling ways means its because he loves you then you are sadly mistaken. They do this because women in their culture have to behave in a respectable way as not to shame the husband in front of the family or friends,just simple things like the way you dress etc, you need to be seen as a good woman and everthing you do reflects on him.

Also they are very insecure and jealous because they have been raised, praised and pampered all their lives by their mother making them feel like everything comes so easy in life that they can't even try to entertain the fact that a woman can be equal to a man and make decisions in life. If so they lose control, not protection no, its control. They like to have their women exactly where they want them, but you ask him what he does in life and omg thats a different story! If he has to control you then how is this showing his love? ok everyone gets jealous at some point but he is not giving you the choice for him to trust you?

It may seem perfect to you but usually after the marriage it all changes, and read about the sexual rites of muslim men of their wives, and many many muslim men are having sex before marriage and they do try to get in your pants, no different to men anywhere in the world, religion does not stop them!! You might of found one of the good ones and I hope you have. Also most of these men have a foriegn wife and also marry their own back home too. Good luck and I wish you well

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