Turkish guy- help please

Submitted by noname (Estonia), Jan 5, 2010 at 16:36

Hello everybody. I met my Turk about two years ago. I love him very much. Everything is good otherwise, but some time ago I discovered he had still some accounts on dating sites. When I confronted him, he said he was just insecure about himself, he says he has only ever had one girlfriend...and he has only had sex with one person in his life, but he is 30 years old( i am 23) so therefore he has selfesteem problems.. He lives with parents, and doesnt have a job right now, he is in the army for half a year now. He has never asked me for money and when i have hinted something that i could pay for plane tickets or things, he always refuses and wants to pay himself. So i really do not think he could be after my money, he also doesnt want to leave Turkey(and im in europe too).

He just says he loves me because he thinks im different and like him..well...i guess we kinda have similar issues and personalities, if he is not just faking it...he says he just wants somebody to love because he never had that before...he is not just trying to charm me, he is talking about everything, simple things like going to the shop and buying milk, if you know what i mean, so that makes me trust him more...but i cant get the dating site things out of my mind...because at first it was all lies, he doesnt know, its old, friends did it, etc. But then again he even gave me his facebook password once..I dont know...:( I love him so much and he is really good to me, but i am so afraid maybe something is not right, especially after reading all these things on the internet..what else could he want? just sex? but after two years of being so close? Could it be I have found the rare nice guy?But why the sites??:(( HELP!

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