Turkish Man, On-line Dating , Estonia

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jan 7, 2010 at 20:22

I can understand why you are attracted to this man, and I'm sure he treats you well. But that is how all the bad scenarios start.

I do not believe you are in love with him at all. For one thing, something (the sites, I'm guessing) prompted you to search for answers on-line.

This tells me that you don't trust him---and that's actually a good thing:

Read again what you shared with us--

because at first it was all lies, he doesnt know, its old, friends did it, etc. But then again he even gave me his facebook password once..I dont know...:( I love him so much and he is really good to me, but i am so afraid maybe something is not right, especially after reading all these things on the internet..what else could he want? just sex? but after two years of being so close? Could it be I have found the rare nice guy?But why the sites??:(( HELP!

A nice guy would not lie about something like this. Having other social networking sites with lots of women friends on them is a classic sign that he is up to no good. He does not sound serious about committing to you at all, and the reason you are unsure about this is because you don't have enough information because it sounds like you've never met in person--and even if you did, a few trips here and there are not sufficent to get to know him.

As is the case with so many women on here, your feminine instincts are in conflict with your heart. The thing is that those instincts help find out male nonsense regardless of what your heart says.

Listen, no name, this isn't real, and it's best if you just walk away.

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