Random Comment on men

Submitted by Mary (Canada), Jan 8, 2010 at 14:45

Years ago I met this pakistanian guy ( not on a dating site) , he lives in Canada. When we met everything was ok and he was very very nice to me. I fell in love not so long after. He was telling me all those nice things, invited me to some night out we were talking everyday etc. One day we were supose to go on a trip together, it was all planned out. At the last minute he admited to me that he was married to a woman in Pakistan and that they have a son together. I stopped talking to him, heart broken , I didn't know what to think anymore. I knew I got played good.

Later down the road many months after that we started talking back together as friends only. He was always asking me if I had a girl friend he could do things with ( sexually), a girl friend I could present to him, even me, he still ask me to have sex with him. I always refused. He still wants me to go to his place, he still invite me everywhwere and on top of that he wants sex with me. ( BUT HE IS MARRIED AND HAVE A SON ). He is a nice person to me. He can help me when I need, things like that. We still are friends even tho I don't like the fact that he is married and probably lying to her, But supposely he told his wife about me and everything is ok. Which I doubt is. THIS IS MY 1ST STORY

2ND STORY.. I met another guy in my city on a dating site, long time ago. He is from Iran. Nice guy also. He fell in love with me right away and so did I, He even cried so much tears when I left his appart. cried for a good 10-15 minuts, saying how much he loves me and don't want to loose me. We had many times together and all those times he needed me to please him sexually , needed me to clean his appartement, needed me to pay his meals lunch + dinner etc..needed me to give him ride around town and so on. He told me that the only issue would be to be accepted by his family which he doubted would ever happened. When I realised he was sort of using me I took distance. He was still calling me all the times asking me to go see him. Almost everyday he did. Until he realised that I didn't want to be his maid and be used no more. H

E WAS the most charming man I ever met. The cutest and everything else. But one day I found out that he never deleted his profile on the dating sites, he is on many more dating sites that I never knew of. And I also think he was and still see many girls in the same time, Which is gross. When I caught him on his game, he suddenly became very very mad and bad and saying all those hurtfull comments to me, putting me down and he DIDNT CARED ONE BIT, infact I think he never did cared. How can someone do that ??? It's so hurtfull when you realised that you have been used for so many things. I did everything to please him and thats what I get in return. But it's hard for me to know if it's because of culture or what.. because my very very BEST FRIEND GUY is Iranian and muslim..just not practicing at all and he is so far to be like this.

So basicaly, I know one thing. It's so easy to get trapped into something. So hard to see if a person is real or not. I think the more you are kind to a man the more he will take advantage of you. ( well, some guy's do anyways ) But in the past I had a canadian BF, he cheated on me. I dated another canadian guy, he was abusive. All those situations happened long time ago but still. I took a long break of men after this. I think bad guys are everywhere not only in Middle-East. But what happen to them when they enter Canada? Why they are like this they're morals and values are not like that in they're countries anyways . They are not supose to be against cheating? against lying? Why is this happening then? Or is it happening there too ( in there countries), as much, but just less talked about? I don't know what to think about that. Most of all the post on here have stories of either cheating or lying or both into them, maybe it's the reality I have to face and here I am today trying again, very slowly but surely with this Afg one. Any way hope they are not all the same. Or I'll again learn from my mistakes.

And good luck to everyone on here who are experiencing simillar situations.

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