i'm so confused - help and advice needed

Submitted by hemhem (United Kingdom), Jan 9, 2010 at 08:38

I am a 36yr old british citizen, who is a non-practising Hindu. i have met the most wonderful man who is 34yrs and dotes on me, loves me, respects me and so on and we are now two months pregnant, but not yet married...the problem is, that, he is a Moroccan national and therefore muslim. we intend on getting married eventually, but i will not convert into islam as i believe that you should love the person for who they are and the way they were brought up, plus my father would not accept if i was to give up the religion i was born in.

our child will be born in the UK...i live and work in the UK and we have fantastic maternity rights here.

i am so worried that this may not work, firstly because of the distance (although with Skype and low cost flights this hasn't been an issue so far), secondly because i am pregnant before marriage (which is a big no no in both religions), thirdly i am not muslim...yet i know he loves me like i love him. we're just so worried that both families will never accept and be a major cause for the relationship not working out. i am so worried that me not being a muslim will destroy our relationship and he will not be a part of my or our child's life. i feel so emotional at the moment..due to being pregnant, but i love him dearly, but i also love my family too. will there ever be a balance between religions.

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