Answers to Questions---Ethnic dating, Treatment of women-

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jan 17, 2010 at 20:04

Do you think these men, when they marry or go out with their own kind, do they treat these women with respect and love them for real because they understand their culture and speak arabic??

Well, first of all, I think you've got to clarify what is meant by "these men". If you are referring to the men discussed on this board, then most of them are just up to no good or messing around, as a lot of people do when extensive internet

It's always easier to relate to someone of your own culture, hertiage, religion and language and that's why most Muslims will marry Muslims, Moroccans will marry Moroccans, ect.

Or is it just us westerners that they treat badly even if they did love genuinely.?

Again, if you mean men on here, then I have a couple of interviews I want to share with you, paraphrased, of course

1) In Sweden a man named Hamid was arrested for raping women. In many European cities, there is a rape epidemic involving Muslim men who rape women (immigrants and natives) who do not meet their standards. Hamid was asked if he would every marry, he would, but he would find a virgin from his own culture. He even smirked and nearly called Swedish women sluts but caught himself.

2) In Norway, a group of Somalis were interviewed by the local press. They were all men who looked like they were in their 20s, early 30s. When asked about Norweigan women, they looked at each other and laughed. One of them said "I think they are good in bed".

Aside from the cultural differences, if a woman is going to put-out, her offer will eventually accepted, and if it's to a man from a culture where women are covered from head-to-toe and are treated like second-class citizens at best, don't be surprised if he doesn't respect you and sees you as a slut!

That is exactly what post-modern liberalism and feminism have brought us. So many women have come on here and said "it's my choice" or "I'm independent", but that is not how their man sees it.

Political correctness does not help either because it prevents men from assimilating.

Of course, those issues are more pertinent for in-person relationships. Many of the relationships (even marriages) descirbed on here are superficial and involve only an internet connection and a few phone calls.

Or do they just not know how to love sincerely any woman?

I think that most of them can, it's just that they are too busy scamming people. Then, you have your usual pool of jerks and users.

It simply boils down to the fact that the most successful relationships occur between people who are similar, not different. Over time, it becomes difficult to sustain relationships based soley on appearence or on the excitement of being with someone of a different culture.

Those are fleeting ideals.

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