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Submitted by New New (United States), Jan 19, 2010 at 01:20

I have been following this site for sometime now and it is so interesting. It may be a little too late for me but I will tell my story anyway. One person on here said it so true fully; no one will entertain themselves with this site unless something is wrong in their relationship. I met someone from the Middle East 2 years ago online. We kept in touch and I went to married him so we could be together. We didn't want to spend a lot of money going back and forward to his country for years and I feel you never really know anyone anyway until you live with them. I went there at my own expense because I wanted to meet him. Our relationship is a little different.

We both are over 40 and I am 5 years older. He is divorced and I never been married. I have lived with a man for 14 years but never married. The last few years I have been devoted to God and my church. He also has strong faith, a Muslim, but we both love God and try to live right. I consider myself a nice-looking black American, not obese, a parole officer with my state government, have several cars, own my home and rental property (none of this I have told him). He doesn't ask me for money. I only helped pay for an attorney to help start the immigration process only because the fee changed during the time he sent the money to me, it wasn't very much. If he is using me for anything, it will be for a visa. He owns his own taxi, in which he is in the process of selling the car, taxi license and all to come here. He lives fairly well in his country. I feel that he just want to try something else, for he is use to living in other countries before his 6 year marriage to his cousin. They had 2 kids, which he said he will get them if she re-marries.

It dissolved after his mother died. She was the one who arranged that marriage, and kept it going while she was alive. The marriage was not working out too well, but he stayed married to her because of his mother. He was divorced when I met him. I spent time with his sister and have talked to 2 of his brothers over the phone, which lives in other countries. This is his sister for they look alike and she is 2 years older than me. Her husband works in Kuwait where she will join him when their daughter who is attending Law School graduates. All of his siblings live in different countries. His youngest brother came home from Italy to marry a girl from their country recently. He got engaged but back out at the last minute. He is in love with a girl from Sweden and cannot bring himself to leave her (they live together in Italy).

When my husband asked to marry me, VISA was the first thing to come to my mind. Because that is what everyone think when a man or female from another country want to marry us. But when I think about how he has brothers in other counties and they all have businesses and help each other all the time. They helped him buy the taxi he owns. I think of how he can go there, but he chooses to come here with me. I secured all my property and investments before I married him, even though he seems to be doing ok for himself also, I done it anyway. I love a lot of things about him and I believe he does the same for me. I want to be with him forever but I don't think I would be devastated if our marriage does not last very long. Does anyone think I have anything to be worried about? We are at the end of our immigration process and just finished a second interview and waiting the answer

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