Excellent advice

Submitted by Pandora (United States), Jan 22, 2010 at 10:30

You are so right. A year ago, I was involved with a guy, who had the drop-dead looks, charm, and a sweetness to him. But as with you, that all faded, and his demeanor changed when it became apparent I wasn't going to marry him in a shot. Actually, his true face was there all along, and it took me almost a whle year to not only cut off contact but leave it behind. Now, I face the day with such a clarity and strength I am amazed by it. I've also dated around, guys from here, and though they haven't panned out, one thing I sure don't have to keep on my mind is if they're only after me for a visa.

Also, I've talked with some guys in chat, but I am upfront about what will and will not happen. It usually leaves them scurrying. I am stronger now, and putting my foot down just gives me that boost of confidence I sorely lacked after my divorce. We're not seconfd-hand anything, don't settle for less or get taken in by charms that quickly disappear.

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