Why on-line dating is not easier

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jan 23, 2010 at 21:39

Women raising families work and come home taking care of kids and the house and are not going to clubs etc to meet men.

The idea that on-line dating is somehow easier is a myth. It requires more work and more anaylsis than in-person dating by far.

The big issue here is the communication gap. You're getting maybe 1/3 of the information from on-line dating as you would in real life. If you are being lied to, that goes down even more and it takes even more time to sift through male nonsense.

Had you actually read and paid more attention to what women on here say, they are insecure and unsure. Why? Because they don't have enough information and it gets to a point where she either has to walk through fog for the rest of the "relationship" (this includes several marraiges discussed on here) or break it off without knowing less information than she normally would have thus being relunctant to do so.

So many women have conflicts between their heart and thier female instincts, simply because they don't have enough information; often times a lot of the information they do have is bogus.

Sorry this doesn't fit the exact stereotype of an exhausted woman coming home from work, putting all the kids to bed, and then spends her night giggling at the charms of a man from the second or third world who is supposedly family-oriented and doesn't play videogames, watch porn or cheat.

As you can see, it's quite the myth.

Accept it or deny it at your own risk, Sharon.

On-line dating has been popular for some time now.

Popular does not mean good or successful, and on-line dating is usually neither, especially with the cases on here.

Ever heard of e-Harmony, match.com, etc?

While I appreciate the sacarsm in your weak critque, I actually have dated several women on-line, fooled around with a bunch more, and even investiaged scammers.

If you took all the women who are signed up for sites like match.com or eharmony at this very instant, most of them will not find their life partner on-line.

From the perspective of a lot of women, especially younger ones, I have observed they tend to get scared once a real, meaningful relationship develops because I believe they realize that they really don't know this person all that well after all. Single women tend to have this mentality, and then the number one fears of women start to kick in---like is he going to pull me in the woods and rape me and cut off my head.

I would bet real money that this occurs to women even as their man is on a car or she is on a plane to go and see him.

Now, my question for you is: Do you know what a 411 scam is? Because if you don't while you are reading at this exact time, you're going to be in for some real treats with your naive attitude.

Women are exploring all possibilities and it does not mean that us women are used or can't find a date within our own culture.

I haven't seen anyone on here say that, probably because most cases of cross-cultural dating involve people who are fed up with dating in their religion/race/ethnicty/country of origin.

It also means there are more obstacles and ex forces.

I for one looked at the individual and not base my reasoning on skin color or culture, sorry if you so disapprove.

Surveys have shown that people with the most enticing photos get the most attention. It's also why, generally speaking, its much easier to scam men than women. I've known men who have sent money due to a picture and a few exchanged words.

Whether you look based on appearence or other qualities, the fact of the matter is that you can only obtain and digest so much information from someone on the internet. It is also apparent that even that meager information is not entirely honest.

It's a lot of extra work to sift through this, and people tend to try and analyze the minute, irrelevant details because of, once again, the lack of information.. If you read many of the defense posts on here, that's what you'll find and it doesn't do a thing to advance the relationship or make them feel any better.

Personally, I've countered and observed people who have

1) Lied about how many kids they have

2) Stole pictures from a Hawiian models site

3) Pretended to be in a town 11 miles from where I live, when in fact their actual location was not even in the same country

4) Men who faked being women

5) Used Americans and Europeans for several years at a time to obtain a visa

Its our life and our choices.

Not when it all falls apart and you go pleading to the US Embassy or the court. Then, you've invovled every American and person in the USA who has ever paid taxes in your personal affairs.

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