To Jasmine and ANONYMOUS XXXX

Submitted by Refreshing (United States), Jan 27, 2010 at 09:25

I have been reading this site now for many months and i simply cannot believe that what everyone has said (particularly Jasmine and Anonymous's last posts), are absolutely 100 percent dead on! I have been involved with an egyptian man for the last 7 months and he has done the exact same thing...he started out to be the most sweetest and understanding man and then something changed in him...now he becomes angry over the slightest comment, and will yell for minutes on end...and always blames me for his bad mood. He hates it when i try to "explain" myself and says i am always trying to find "excuses" when in fact I am only trying to make him see that there was no reason to become upset over whatever it was that got him so mad. He is also an extremely jealous man, yet he will never give an ounce of his emotions for me (that is if he even has any).

I often wonder why he continues to keep in contact with me and continues to be so jealous when he acts (through his anger) like he can't stand me half of the time.It is alsoo amazing to me when he tells me that I am "out of control" whenn in fact it is he that cannot control his emotions. It just makes no sense to me at all. If these men do not like us and we make them so angry, then why do they continue to keep contact with us...this is what i call crazymaking. And, I know some of you who will read this will say say that we should be the ones breaking the contact, and, ultimately I agree, but that is easier said than done. I have tried this and i ultimately break down when i hear from him again. Prior to this man, I was not at all like this at all.

I just don't understand what these men have to gain by stringing us along. Why don't they just forget about us if we cause them so much "anger' and "problems". And, I am shocked that there is an entire culture out there that has been raised to be so selfish, childish, and jealous. I need to be clear that i do not stereotype but from reading this site, it is unbelieveable that these men have the same characteristics.

I also want to know, how are these men able to justify being on these single sites when, i believe, this would be against the Muslim faith? How can they chat and do "whatever" with numerous women, and believe this is not a sin given these men claim to be so religious???????

Sorry this is so long but these posts continue to baffle my mind about these men!!!!!!

i too am an educated and intelligent woman, and i cannot for the life of me figure out why I continue to engage in this bizarre relationship

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