Girlfriend, get the heck out of there....

Submitted by ANONYMOUSXXXXXX (United States), Jan 28, 2010 at 19:14

The reason he is doing this is he is holding on to you while he looks for "something better" in his own mind. As I said in a previous post, they rule you through their self-righteous anger. I have come to learn, after 3 years, that they basically have no respect for women. You are the cleaner, cooker, and sex mate. Otherwise, their friends come in first, only below their families. They are pi$$ed off by a strong woman, and have to beat them down. They are afraid of strong women, but they are attracted cuz strong women are usually hard workers and have a good life.

It is the weirdest thing how they can make us confident women into women who feel like they are less than they are. Right now, I am on day 5 of barely speaking to my hubby. I have decided to play his game. This way, I don't get mad or hurt. I am just going about my business, talking to my friends, etc. And he can do he same. But, praise the Lord, is sure is peaceful. We have had fights like I never had before. I am not an angry person, but they are experts at pusing your buttons. They will store up everyday things to use against you, like sneaky little bankers. Then in a fight, they will push it in your face. For example, if one of your friends makes a joke about you like saying you are "crazy" or "talk a lot" they will throw that back at you like your friends were serious. They will go to ANY level to make you feel like crap and that you are the problem.

TRUST ME YOU ARE NOT THE PROBLEM, THEY ARE. I never had trouble getting along with anybody in my life. Don't question yourself, you are not the reason for the mess, they are. BUT you will never get one of them to say they are sorry, give you affection when you crave it, or pay his own way. Well, enough whining for now. Stay strong, sis.....

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