To New New on Middle Eastern Man

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jan 30, 2010 at 23:36

Welcome and thanks for sharing.

You do have something to worry about, because you don't trust him. I'm not saying that you should, and it is actually a good thing that you do not, but no one on here can really change that. If you really did not trust him, you wouldn't be going to such great lengths to protect your property and you would not be looking this stuff up on-line and asking for advice on an anonymous blog.

This is the problem with international, on-line relationships.They require extra dimensions of faith to persue, and uncertainty is going to come with it no matter what you do. Sometimes, you can catch them doing something naughty, but even in those cases, women on here tend to make excuses for their man (usually because he is different and younger). So, needless to say, it tends to end up being a real big mess.

The reason why so many women on here uncertain (some admit it and others do not) is because they simply do not have enough information. When you talk about marraige and long-term relationships, the information needed for security in those simply cannot be gotten over internet or the phone.

You did do a lot of intelligent things, like secure your property and not tell him about certain things in case things don't work out, but if the very idea that things might not work out is so prevalent in your mind, why even go to the trouble?

Listen, I can understand why you find this man attractive, and I have no doubt that you are a successful, hard-working good-looking woman.

It's nice to see that he is successful, but really, most of the men discussed on here are reasonably well off in their countries of origin.

I'm just not convinced that you would be all okay if this did not work out. Once you've had that happened, it's not a very pleasent experience. Seriously, New new, it's not like this will either be over quickly or last forever. These kind of relationships can get dragged on for months, even years, and it's not just uneducated second and third world peaseants who pull this kind of stuff. The men and women in our country who get taken advantage of are almost always involved with foreigners who are somewhat successful. Look at it like this: Not everyone in the Middle East has internet access, a private cell phone, and knows good English. Believe me, these are predominat luxuries.

My final comment--- it's not too late for you, and most people will not find real happiness on-line.

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