To Spot On

Submitted by Isis (Australia), Feb 3, 2010 at 18:48

I agree to a point with your thoughts on women in "these" relationships who giive advice to others but surely this advice is valuable too? Listening to others helps you understand both sides of this fascinating scenario.

However, it seems that when women are caught up in the euphoria of "these" relationships they only listen to what they want to hear. A prime example of this is a recent poster "Michigan". She came on this site seeking advice but would not listen and chose to only listen to those who were sympathetic with her cause. She seems to thrive on being miserable and being a "doormat" and declines to take any positive means to conclude her relationship and move on to happier times.

I know of another prime example occurring in Egypt as we speak, of an older western woman who considers herself "married" to a much younger Egyptian man but despite all the usual warning signs just will not let him go. In truth he really does want out of the relationship but she will not give upon him and has even parked herself on his doorstep for a month with plans to buy him a flat and a car. The man is married to a local Egyptian woman and can only see the desperate woman for an hour a day. The desperate woman knows this but still pushes on thinking it will all be a bed of roses for her and her man in the not too distant future. I have given her a few hinsts that the Egyptian man is only after what he can get from her but she has ignored all the "hints" and won't let go. Now, I ask you - who's fault is that?

So the big question is - how does this stop? Whilst women continue to flock to these relationships with no gain whatsoever for them, to continually crumble to needs of want, desire and romance and put these men above all else to the detriment of relationships, financial comfort and emotional stability all the warnings in the world will not make them see that they are going for the big fall. The men always get the blame when it collapses and that really amuses me. The women in these situations see themselves as blameless.

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